Yesterday I went to bed with a terribly active mind, focused on how I wanted to bitch, and that I want to do it here. Okay, in general, taking a dump in public is considered not so polite but to see it from a more objective perspective, let's put it as I have an opinion that I would like to voice out, regarding:
"Oh, you dating another ang moh again?"
I feel that I have had enough of getting the above line from people I know. As many of them claimed that their sentence is very innocent and it is merely to find out if my boyfriend is ang moh (caucasian/white) or not. Unfortunately for their innocence or ignorance, when you phrase a sentence like that, there is a hint of negativity associated with the words "another" and , especially "again". Likely examples would be, "Oh, you are doing it again?", "Oh, you are taking another smoke again?". Imagine we reuse the example, with a positive element, like an A grade from an exam, "Oh, you got another A again?" or "Oh, you got A again?"
As demonstrated, even if a positive element is used, the sentence does not come out as positive. In such cases, do I need to explain myself when I felt offended by these individuals? I highly suggest that they sign up for English courses with the British Council or any other institutes offering similar classes, as I do not wish for my other half to be insulted and seen as someone negative as well as that I do not need to be judged by people I talk to once a year.
While we are at this, I would like to call for these people with funny perspectives of judging me to think twice and rejudge. I did not specifically hunt down white guys. I happened to have a crushes on Asian (of my own race in particular) males, which resulted in as all crushes do, nothing. Do I drool over hot Asian guys? For sure! I even find Chinese guys with single eye lids super cute. I base the same criteria of interests and qualities as deal maker or breaker on all guys, regardless of what color they are. (That is why the book Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus from John Gray is such a hit, it applies to one and all). Look at it this way, I like a chivalrous guy who holds your heavy shopping bags for you, who lets you walk first and opens the doors for you and above all, respects you and love you for who you are. I love to bond through food, so my guy gotta know how to cook. I like a guy with a sense of hygiene and understands the basics of housekeeping. See, my criteria is not based on color or nationality.
As it is with life, one does not hold on to a fixed checklist or a portrait with which you compare it to with every potential person. Life is unpredictable. And taking it all in stride makes simply makes it a lot more interesting. As long as you are comfortable with the person, checks out the majority of the points on your checklist, life rocks.
(On a side note, I always have the feeling that I am hardly approached by Chinese males because:
1. I don't meet a lot of them, at work or at play. I don't intend to date my guy friends from my own network circle as I see them more like good pals or well, just friends.
2. I am huge compared to many Chinese chicks out there who are in my terms, stick thin. My flaw is to have curves.
3. I am plain. I do not put on makeup 99% of the time as compared to many who does out there therefore they don't see me.)
So whoever has the guts to show his affection to me or be attracted to me and show it, in general, wins and gets another check on my list. By the way, do realize that we are part of the MTV generation. Everyone is this world grow up eating the same Happy Meals, listening to the same hits, watching the same cartoons from Disney and Nickelodeon and of course, watching the same movie blockbusters while gorging on popcorn. How different do you think you could get these days?
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